So my questions now is, how do I expand my vision of what is possible for myself, what I can imagine, what I can dream, what I can desire. I can definitely FEEL what all of that is like. I have always seen myself as big - doing big things, loving in a big way, surrounded by big activity - but I cannot SEE what I am doing or what it looks like. My imagination stops me from actually having it all; it is working so hard to keep me small and safe.

As I think about my work from a client perspective, it caused me to zoom out and notice, that what I am doing, Support with facilitation, coaching & consulting, is just one point of a star that my clients are managing.
The other points of their star might be: Environment, Relationships, Structures, and Inner Condition. All of these can be the way the client guides its way through circumstances.

I’ve been leading groups for a lot of years now, 25 I guess. And over that time I’ve collected a handful of elements that inform my practice. I use them every time I lead; they are non-negotiables - or maybe better - they are the stars that guide my practice. I know that if I follow these five stars, I will find my way to a good experience for participants.

Change requires people to get together and share ideas, experiences, and perspectives. To do that, we need structures to make it possible, communication channels, meetings, events, etc. But those won’t get us very far unless we are also able to suspend our own internal need to be heard and start listening to what is going on around us.

We are working out what to do here…